SANKY PANKY r u a victim?

[coco78]

It seems as if youR DOMINICAN MAN  got caught in a big MENTIRA! (Lie)
But you are simply not to blaim of course........Ladies of all countrys this is your fault! No I am not taking anyones side but when you step into another world be sure to bring the manuel of survival with you! What Ricky has been and will continue to do in nothing new! This has been going on on this island for many of years and the tradition of SANKY PANKY will continue if us women do not screw are heads on correctly. Yes of course as a forenior would it not be nice to go away on vacation and meet that sexy latin God that every women dreams about...He calls you baby, tells you he loves you, gives you the out most attention, tells his friends your his SPOSA (wife), the second day you know him he introduces you to his family, his mother is inlove with you calls you beutiful every time she shes you, when you dance with him his eyes are on you, and lets not forget the BEST SEX EVER!
Its a dream.....But only a dream! Im sure that most ladies are reading this can relate to the things that I have mentioned, if you can then be aware you are being played! If you think other wise give it some time because ladies the truth is your are JUST A BANK ACCOUNT or TICKET OUT! I have the wonderful experiance of living in Puerto Plata for three years, got married, and had a child. My Domincan love was nothing but a nightmare! I was put on a pedistool untill he knew he had me were he wanted me.......In three years I spent over $50,000.00 canadian in supporting his ass along with family members. Did not learn my lesson and gave him that ticket to Canada to end up in bankrupcy, a single mother and still putting up with his sorry ass! He has moved on and I have picked myself up again...but I never learned and returned this year to have fallen in love with.....yes ladies....another Dominican God! Its a disease! Will I know that this will work? NO
I dont but I will give it a try...but its not so much him I am concerned about...you see I have gotten the privlage in meeting his friends the CREAM of the CROP! I have learned that this game they play is a way of survival! If there was no tourist I think Dominicans would be dead! Like the Dinosours! I will give you examples of 5 situations and you figure it out............Maybe they might relate to you and if they do its a warning THAT U HAVE BEEN PLAYED!

1. Met this guy in Puerto Plata on a vacation with my friend. He liked my friend!
infact told her he loved her, they had sex every day, introduced her to his family the third day we were there....as my SPOSA! (wife). Last night there friend finds out Dominican has a Dominican girl. The end! Went back home, got a call from him has a favour because I was like his ERMANA (sister) to contact his REAL girlfriend who lives in Toronto, swore not to say a thing! Met girlfriend and infact went back to Domionican with her! She gave him in a week $15,000.00 to buy a car to find a job and as well to help him get his vistor visa. Well he got his car and did not spend one breathing minute with her.....Later when we got home she was pregos! Had an abortion due to the reason that she tapped his answering service and found out that yes indeed he was working just working w/ the ladies! You name it he was doing them...Canadians, Americans, Europeans! Lets not forget that he has the nerve to turn around and say that shes crazy and too jelouse!

2. Girl meets Dominican boy.....Gets married! I was the maid of honor! Dominican boy when girl is in Canada working her ass off to due up his res papers is back on the island doing every other girl but her! She finds naked picture of girl on his phone and he simply sais that its not his picture...a friend just happened to take his phone and take a picture of a naked girl in his room! WONDERFUL!

3. Girl meets Domincan boy.......Sends him money....pays his rent....Sends him clothes............goes down every three months to satisfy his needs because shes worried that he might sleep with some one else....NOW??? Well lets just say she can not even pay her rent, in dept and guess what all the money that he was getting from her was to save up for his wedding coming this septmeber to marry a women in England! Oh yes did I leave the part out thathe still sleeps with his Babys....More then one babys mother!!!!!!!!

I do not think that I need to continue....has thease are people that I actually know through my boyfriends friends. I have gotten the privlage to meet thease wonderful women who were deeply and some continue to love thease mem no matter what they do to them they continue to hold on and except every apoligy no matter the situation!

If a Dominican man

1. Dresses good.
2. Asks for money.
3. Calls you his sposa.
4. Tells you he want to marry you the first couple of weeks knowing u.
5. Convinces you to sleep with him with no protection.
6. Introduces you to his family right away.
7. Gets jelouse over stupid things.
8. gets you to pay for things.

BE WARNED HE NOTHING BUT A SANKY!
Ladies this is wrong......what my friends, what i have passed and others will pass is nothing new! Dont feel sorry for them they will even use the line that they have no money to even EAT!!!!!!!! This my friends is a business for them!!!!
WHOS TO BLAME? US!!!!!!!
For beliveing them and trusting them and then when we find out we have been PLAYEd we walk away with are hearts in are hands and them laughing in are face!!!!!!!!
This is the problem they will continue this if we do not teach them a lesson speak are minds put them in are place.... HOW? talking is not a method for them!!! They do not even respect there are own women how would they respect us!!!

The only way ....................is breaking there legs!!!!!!

Use you heads ladies!!!!

Because they can become your worst nightmare!

The end!!!

[babyxcheeks]

Im still trying to figure all this stuff about the whole sanky business. I went to stay at luperon beach resort and I did get to know some of the guys in the animation team. The animation team manager told everyone that all of the guys in the team are sankies. I think most of the guests didn't have any idea what it meant.

Is it true that most of the workers in the resorts are all sankies? Im just wondering because it seems like that they are all viewed in that way.

[LittleMissNaughty]

I am absoluty amazed when reading all these different threads about this? I have stayed at Casa Marina Reef and Superclub Breezes and must walk around with my eyes closed as I did not see any of this?
I made lots of friends at the casa marina (majority male) and never once got asked for money or anything, ok I was with my boyfriend but I was always asked to dance and the like (well my boyfriend was asked if I could dance with them?!?!)
I feel for all the girls this happens to but you must also be aware that this happens and just treat it as a holiday romance and leave it at that.

Anyone had any problems with the anamation team as Casa Marina Reef / Beach as going back soon and would like the heads up!

[babyxcheeks]

I never got asked for money aswell. I thought the animation team at luperon were really nice and entertaining. Even though their manager said that they were sankies but I think he was only joking because for the whole time I was there I didn't see anything of that kind.

I got asked to dance merengue alot of times there and of course they have to ask other girls aswell. I wouldn't say they are being sankies by doing that. I found them to be respectful but its because they all thought I looked Dominican so they never really messed with me that much.

They have to mingle with the guests so obviously your gonna see them with different girls everyday. I didn't see anything going on between them and the girls. Just general chit chat I guess. Me and my mum still keep in contact with one of the bartenders and I know for sure that he aint no sanky.

But as you said it is just a holiday romance but some people treat it as something serious. Just go there, have your fun, then get back to reality when you come back. Then the cycle starts over again if you go back lol. I can't wait to go back to luperon beach though :-)

[princess86]

baby cheeks ...................


*****But as you said it is just a holiday romance but some people treat it as something serious. Just go there, have your fun, then get back to reality when you come back. Then the cycle starts over again if you go back lol.********




COULDNT OF PUT IT BETTER MYSELF CHICA

[MachinShin]

Coco78 is a wise man(?). Beware of the creatures known as Sanky Panky. Like most people living in DR in poverty or worse, they are looking for a way out and you just might be their sugar momma or daddy.

Even so, enjoy your stay here in "Hispaniola".

[liz]

I made friends with a guy from the animation team at riu mambo. I slept with him, he tried to get me to without protection. When i returned home i have since found out he slept with numerous girls throughout the summer, and has kindly sent them home with a little present in the form of an sti. Everyone needs to be aware.

[jess]

So maybe I am one of the only victims then!!

I got asked for money, and gave it too him aswell! IDIOT eh!!

[lina]

OMG! I can not beleive all of this drama! I too was a victim of dominican TRASH! But I was one of the lucky ones..I only knew him for 6 months...yes, he asdked me for money...I told him I dont have any...I did send him maybe 500 dollars here and there but nothing major...the 2nd time I went down, he introduced me to his HUGE FREAK SHOW family...they said to me, ohh you are so beautiful and when you are gone, Carlito cries...BOOHOO(LOL) we talk everyday on MSN...he would say I love you...blah blah... so anyways...went to see him last week in Puerto Plata...knew he was up to something...I kicked him out becuase I felt he was hiding something,..He's getting married to an American in September, and he has his baby mama in the DR,,, he only got away with my 1100 US dollars and my rings...oh well...
but you see, I am really good at revenge...I went to his place of work (Iberostar) and told his boss everything, (his boss was a friend of mine) and he has been fired!!! LOSER! He sends me an email yesterday saying that I am a bitch for going to his place of work and telling everyone that he robbed me and is a liar...he says I ruined his reputation in Puerto Plata becuase everyone is talking about it! HA HA maybe he'll think twice the next time becfore messing around with a tourist! ESPECIALLY ME!

[lina]

ahummm...the manacure should have givin it away! DUH!

[evilbarbie]

I just came back a few weeks ago from Punta Cana. I was at the Ocean Blue Hotel.

The first day there (we arrived the night before) one of the Animation guys noticed me sitting by the pool ... (my friends were in the pool) he started talking to me how I noticed me the night before at the sports bar and blah blah.. well he remembered my name and we would talk and such with my friends. Anyways one of the nights at the disco.. i gave him a lil braclete (some guy in the vendor actually gave it to me) he then gave me a kiss and was playing with my hair and such.. anyways at the end of the night he wanted another kiss and i declined.. telling him how I thought guys were evil.. haha anyways yeah I had a vibe from him he was a player and didnt see him the rest of the time cause he was off 3 days and then we left.

Anyways a day later I was at the disco hanging with a local guy from my area (Toronto) and he was a jerk so he went to talk to some french girls and left me alone..so i spotted some guy dressed up as a Phantom standing by the dancefloor so i went to talk to him... got interuppted by some crazy girl, after she was gone we started to talk a lil and dance.. went over to the sports bar after where my friend met up with us. We just talked and he wanted my phone number & email next time. Next day we hung again and the disco and then went to the bar again to eat...just me and him.. we just talked a lot about life and such. He told me he was coming in January to Toronto & NY which was kool. He asked if he could give me a kiss.. (the other guy didnt ask just did it) he then later on asked me to meet up with him outside of the resort because how this is his job and he could get in trouble... do they have some kind of curfew?
Anyways I was rather really drunk but I didnt go... of course I didnt go.

I havent heard from him since.. I did give him a call last week (he gave me his phone number and email..email doesnt work?)

is this guy a sanky? i could see the first being one for sure. Neither of them asked for sex or money or anything.

The first guy was named David and the second was named Angel. Both dancers and part of the Animation team.
 

[JoyaUSA]

Holy cow! I would have never in a million years guessed this went on. Boy, how naive am I??!! I took my first trip to the DR in Aug. and within the first 5 hours I was there, I was whisked off on a moto with the most gorgeous human being I had ever seen! We ended up in his bed and I was instantly in love. He is the sweetest man and has such a good heart. He even refused to have sex with me because we were out of condoms, even though I was the one begging him for it. He told me that his heart was very fragile and that all the DR women wanted him for was sex. So, of course, I was hooked.

I have to laugh, because while he never asked me for money, I have sent him some via Western Union because he was sick and couldn't work for a week or so. So, it was funny to see that mentioned by szi08.

Felipe and I have talked/text every day since I've been home. I even have another trip already booked in November to go back so I can see him. As you may be able to tell, I'm a little on the fence about him now. I think that he has wonderful traits and every one of his friends said what a good heart he has. Does that mean his friends are in on it, too?

This forum has definitely opened up my eyes. I don't think I'll be spending too much more money on phone calls, texts and Western Union. But, I do plan to go down there in Nov. and get what I want out of the deal... a great time with a sexy man in paradise!

[JoyaUSA]

Wow, szi08! You are an extremely insightful person and are very straight up. I like that about you. I appreciate everything you said - you are right on! Thank you for the eye-opening comments and for addressing everything I said. You really do make sense.

While my bubble has been burst, I see Felipe for who he is and understand that he has to do what he has to do to survive. In the short time I spent with him, he was sweet to me, we laughed together, played pool, drank beer with friends, danced, he played his guitar and sang to me, took me on a tour of Juan Dolio on his moto, and he made me feel wonderful about myself. I asked him what he would want to do someday, and he said he would like to own his own fruit market. To me, this was a guy with some aspirations for himself, a positive attitude, and wanting to make a better life for himself. No to mention...his body is like something out of a magazine. His biceps are HUGE and his body is perfectly proportional, his lips were soft and his touch was electric. It was all like a dream. Who wouldn't want to hang on to that forever? A part of me always will. It's such as shame for me to know that all of that wasn't because he was attracted to me and who I am - but rather for WHAT I am - a ticket out of the DR  or money in his pocket.

What you said about him surviving before he met me... I actually did think of that. He's survived 29 years coming from Hati to the DR on his own without me. He'll find a way to keep surviving on his own.

I do plan to go back down in Nov. for a good time with Felipe. However, I'll go with my heart closed and my eyes wide open thanks to you and your advice. It's nice to know that there are sisters out who look out for other sisters. Thanks!

[JoyaUSA]

On other question...
Do the DR men know the term "sanky"?

[JoyaUSA]

Hey Szi08!
Thanks for the speedy reply. To answer your question, my friend has been traveling to the DR frequently over the past 4 or 5 years. She met a man on a resort (Barcello Capella) that she's been in contact with for years. In my opinion, he is NOT a sanky. He has a nice job and has never asked or taken money from her.  She got to know a lot of the locals and would often go off the resort to a bar across the street called the Freedom Grill in Juan Dolio.

My first night there in Aug. we were hanging out at the Freedom Grill and Felipe caught my eye. He was stunning and I never thought he would even give me a look. My friend told him to dance with me, and that was it. He was sweet and I loved the way he laughed and hugged me. He made me feel very comfortable and showed me how to dance the Latino way. The owner of the Freedom Grill is part of the police down there and he knew Felipe. So, in my mind, if he said Felipe was OK, then Felipe was OK with me. Call me stupid, but I trusted him instantly, and much to my friend's suprise, I didn't come back to the resort until the next morning. It was an awesome night!

Felipe drives a moto taxi for a living. So, I know he doesn't make hardly any money, but he seems to have a very good work ethic and a very close knit group of friends (his "brothers"). I want so bad to believe that his intentions are good, and maybe I'll be pleasantly surprised, maybe not. I'll just have to take things as they come. I always prided myself on being a good judge of character. This guy is putting me to the test!

I'm just curious, if you aren't from the DR, how do you know so much about the DR men? What cities have you visited there?

Take care, girlfriend!